Strong Women and Debunking the Idea that They are Weakened when They Find Love

“Do not bring people in your life who weigh you down. And trust your instincts … good relationships feel good. They feel right. They don’t hurt. They’re not painful. That’s not just with somebody you want to marry, but it’s with the friends that you choose. It’s with the people you surround yourselves with.”

— Michelle Obama

There’s an unusual idea has been making its way around that’s set on the belief that love in the media is weakness. And perhaps, in the real world though I’ve been fortunate enough never to witness this. You’d think Once Upon A Time’s late Cora Mills is in position of their hearts or something. But there’s no theory or idea that’s more laughable, and I say that with the utmost respect. There are a number of opinions that differ from mine that I could respect, turn the other cheek, and agree to disagree on, but when said idea is damaging and leads to young women believing that strength is coldness and isolation, I draw the line. There’s great bravery in honesty and it takes more courage to be vulnerable than it does to build a wall. It takes more courage to understand and explore our feelings than it does to shut them off. It takes strength to fall into the great unknown with a partner that we’re willing to share our entire lives with. Strength is understanding the difference between right and wrong. Strength is understanding our value and trusting our instincts in every obstacle we face. And when someone is right for us, they don’t take those things away from us, they don’t dim them or lock them away, they welcome them with open arms and admiration.

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International Women’s Day | ’15

Inspiring Female Character II:
Peggy Carter (Agent Carter) | Hayley Atwell

There are countless reasons why Agent Carter should be on the list of show’s you are all watching, but the greatest reason is the superlative message the show’s revolutionizing through this statement: “I know my value. Anyone else’s opinion doesn’t really matter.” The quote represents the faultless message that for each and every individual, there’s nothing more significant than our own perceptions of who we are. Peggy Carter’s character authenticates that no matter how many people form their own visions of who we are, nothing can taint our own views if we are confident with the truth. For young women everywhere who suffer with the agonizing and belittling fact that the world is continuously judging their actions, Peggy Carter is an icon whose actions should be analyzed and thoroughly understood in order to find self-love. Feminism is necessary because the world still has a difficult time understanding that equality is something we desperately need in order to create a safer, healthier environment for the younger generations. Instead of being taught that there’s a norm which everyone should strive to achieve, younger generations need the encouragement to recognize that the choices they make in order to live a happy life are all that matter. Agent Carter teaches its viewers that regardless of how superior someone’s place in society is, the only opinion that matters is one’s own — there is no right or wrong path everyone must robotically follow, for self respect is the key to success. At the end of the day, each and every human being needs to be taught how to properly love themselves and how vital it is that they follow their dreams.

As a series, Agent Carter does a magnificent job of showcasing women as complex figures. The series allows us to see that while Peggy Carter is fiercely independent and physically strong, she’s someone who often allows her heart to do the talking. She gives in to vulnerability, she cries, she gets angry, she laughs, she fights and she loves. Peggy Carter corroborates that she’s a woman who will do anything in her power to earn the respect she knows she deserves and if that’s not inspiring, then we don’t know what is. There is nothing more treasurable than self-love.

Hayley Atwell is a gift — truly, I’m dumbfounded by the lack of words in the English dictionary to describe her masterful performances. Peggy Carter was faced with numerous challenges this season and each time, Atwell delivered her scenes in an incomparably indescribable manner – evoking profound emotions into the hearts of viewers during all eight episodes.

Parks and Recreation 7×09 “Pie Mary” Recap

Spoilers Ahead

Pie Mary is an episode that could only be described as completely and utterly brilliant.

Episode Summary: Controversies arise when Leslie decides to skip out on a pie making contest because she doesn’t like what it stands for. Garry loses his wedding ring plus a bunch of other things, and Donna thinks it’s the most entertaining thing ever. After April tells Ron that she and Andy must move to Washington for her job in a few months, he asks for the spare key to his house back; however, because she hid it a long time ago, they all need to put their heads together to figure out where.

Review: One of my all time favorite things about Parks and Recreation is that it never lets us forget how proud show runners and actors are to delve into feminism. They’ve always done a superlative job of validating the importance of equal rights and debunking the conception that Feminism = girls rule, boys drool. There are countless things I loved about this episode but the main entity is that it reminded its viewers of what a sublime pair Ben and Leslie are. She supports him and he supports her – no matter who’s doing what, they’ll defend their person to the end of time all while standing their ground and letting the world know that love helps them grow as a person. Also, Ron Swanson is a complete softie and Nick Offerman’s a genius.

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Music Monday

October 27, 2014

Nervous Girls – Lucy Hale |x|

We’ve loved this song since its debut and because we were recently reminded of how wonderful it is, we figured it’d be the perfect choice for this week’s Music Monday. It’s important to remember that other females are never our competition. They’re never anything but extraordinary, and if we focus on uplifting one another, we wouldn’t be in a place of constantly bringing ourselves down. We all have troubles of our own, there’s no need to inflict any kind of pain on others.

The cruelest words about me come from my own mouth.” At some point in our lives we must stop to realize that we are our worst enemy. And while there are unfortunately people who live to bring others down, we let them. By not focusing on the fact that it’s okay not to always have it together, we allow our minds to eat us up. Therefore, above all things, let us try to remember that we’re all very much alike. It’s okay if we’re sad. It’s okay if we’re happy. It’s okay if we’re outgoing. It’s okay if we’re shy. We are defined by the goodness that lives in our hearts. We all have a place in this world and we’re all valuable in our own special ways. By working hard and spreading kindness, we’re all deserving of superlative greatness. Today, go out of your way to uplift others. This is our message to all you ladies, love yourselves and others. We’re all so incredibly alike and beautifully complex – let’s embrace what makes us unique. Let’s go out of our way to make someone else’s life easier.